Father-Daughter Sexual-Assault: “Tay, ‘wag po!”

“Violated all limits of humanity and showed no repentance over his offence, this is a TOAST.”

A teenage girl thought that she and her family were living a normal life. But then she discovered that she had been sexually abused ever since the age of 10. Twelve years on, she recalls that devastating day and the traumatic events that followed.

Family is the basic unit of the society. As a group of related people, it mainly works for the development of its children to let them grow as good citizens. Teaching them in life and how to cope up from mistakes is part of growing up within their progress.

As children went on to teenage life, parental guidance and a solid control over their teens is done which is to say that the father as the head of the family would govern the life of his 12-year old daughter in particular. Through their years inside their house, teaching them the essence of discipline and moral conduct is number 1 in the checklist of a Father.

However, child neglect or abuse on the part of individual parents occurs continually and regularly, leading other members to accommodate such actions. Children sometimes grow up in such families with the understanding that such an arrangement is normal.

Here enters what we call, dysfunctional families that are primarily a result of co-dependent adults, and may also be affected by addictions, such as substance abuse (alcohol, drugs, etc.), or sometimes an untreated mental illness. Rape cases such as father – daughter sexual assault is an example. He is forcing his daughter to do unnatural sex, by slapping, and other kinds of cruelty. Sexual assault includes coercion, physical threats, abuse of power/ authority or incapability of the person to give consent for instance he has mental disability, underage or unconscious.

A teen-sex-abuser father do not believe that what they do is wrong. They convince themselves that his daughter wants it to happen as much as they do; indeed, it is not uncommon for them to blame his daughter for leading them on. It is in this denial that the danger to other teens lies. If an abuser does not believe that what he does is harmful, he has no reason not to do it again.

Rape is not a new case to the Philippines. Ever since, there are a number of rape incidences happening over the country. One of these cases is the “father-daughter rape case” wherein the father forces his daughter to have sex with him through intimidation, authority or physical threat. Most of these victims are under the legal age. According to PNP Women and Children Protection Center, 75.5 % are child victims of rape from 1999 to present. The department of social welfare and development conducted a report on the prevalence of rape cases by age group. The report shows that ages 14-18 are the ones who are involved in this incident.

          Being the father of victim, it was his duty to protect her from any such assault but he himself violated all limits of humanity and committed rape upon her.

Feelings

I feel sad. But instead of being miserable, I choose to live in happiness.

I am the master of my fate. I am the captain of my soul.

Are you really in harmonic relationship with what so called freedom? If yes, so you’re saying you deliberately command your own self in liberal ways. But are you sure?

The nature of a man comes fourth with an idealistic meaning of his own views in terms of his capability in sufficing his needs. What the mind thinks, so does the act of it goes after. Basically, there are two major voices that we could hear when we are having troubles simply because, our pleasure mind vs. consciences are on a fight with each other. So much for that, you can’t really say that you are a free individual when you can’t reach the point where you have driven all your wants into needs or all your temptations into preservation of yourself. the point is that, WE, ARE SLAVES OF OUR OWN APPETITE. That is to say that we are in fight with our appetitive part of our souls. 

 

According to Plato’s Republic, there are three composition of the soul. First is the Reason, who rules with wisdom and forethought on behalf of the entire soul. Second is the Spirit, who acts as the subordinate and at the same time an ally of reason. It is in command of the third composition of the soul which is the Appetite. The Appetite is by nature covetous and wicked. With all these knowledge on Plato’s ideal state of individual justice, we can now have the idea on which ourselves have our own appetitive side that is to say that our spirit is weak and our reason is betrayed by our own selves.

However, to say that “I am the master of my fate. I am the captain of my soul,” simply states that “Be a master of your self.” Its significant goal is to be not a slave upon the appetitive part of our own human soul. In order to have the best of what we could become, be the master of our own lives-simply because we have a goal to achieve, we have the power to achieve our goals, we have the decision to overcome our weaknesses and thus these can be the source of our strengths to reach the destination of our dreams. Because no one can ever set you free, only you, yourself can do that for yourself. Be a master, not a slave.

I Am Alive

All my life I’ve been so strong

I’ve been afraid to go wrong

In every life’s situation,

I find a way for solution

 

To feel that I am alive!

 

All my life I’ve been weak,

Realizing I was a freak.

In times of problems

I started to be solemn,

 

To feel that I am alive!

 

All my life I’ve been proud,

Shouting it so loud,

Never noticed how I boast,

I felt nothing but deep toast.

 

To feel that I am alive!

 

All my life I’ve been inlove,

To a girl and to the one Above,

It feels like forever

And endless together

 

To feel that I am alive!

 

All my life I’ve been walking,

But in spite of having nothing

I’ve strived to live life to the fullest,

My journey I believed is the best,

 

To feel that I am alive!

 

All my life I’ve been sorry,

I admit, my visions were blurry

I am not a perfect man as told

I commit mistakes so bold.

 

To feel that I am alive!

 

All my life I’ve been thankful,

For the blessings so wonderful..

To everyone who was there for me..

Who made me happy as can be,

 

To feel that I am alive!

Droplets of Rain

August 15, 2014

High above from its deepest shines the warming glow of sun. Spinning through the wind, catching the sun’s little particles and chasing the clouds. Frozen valleys cloaked within the vast tip toe, stories behold in sights of an eye.Colorful bliss ran down my veins, seeing the oceans crawlin’ under my feet. Carved in my heart is swollen grace and joy. Wonders of life, golden tree fruitful blessings abided the light tempting shadows. As droplets flow thru the meddow, crunches of growls despite the oddness it brings. Grudges fades, collided with freedom as it flees flawlessly. Rain, Rain, Rain, ain’t you got nothing to say, express your love in a warm way. Stop the cryin’ showers, broken sunshine blossoms at dawn. New beginnings, new love, new life.. Rainbow smiles after the rain. Lil droplets, oh little bitty ones, your beauty is beyond compare, I’ll never see what a man can foresee, this feelin’ can’t go wrong , this feeling is in fire, I come to close my eyes, and feel the breath of life.

THE BEAUTIFUL YOU

❤ ❤ ❤

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Your smile that shines in my eyes,

Like the blooming sun that rise.

You’re glow that makes me happy,

Makes me giggle and snappy.

 

Are you getting tired my dear?

You’ve been running through my mind the whole year,

You make my life so exciting,

Tense feeling I’ve been experiencing.

 

I can’t get my eyes off you,

Following you to and fro.

I can’t resist from falling in love,

Are you an angel sent from above?

 

Do you have a map? I’m getting lost in your eyes.

I’ve found a diamond in skies,

So bright and precious you,

Who brings so much hue.

 

Everytime I see you, you turn me on.

Oh no, do you have a clone?

Everywhere I look, all I see is you.

I’m not drunk; I’m just intoxicated by you.

 

Meeting someone so special only happens once in a lifetime.

All I want is just to see you from time to time.

You look beautiful today,

Just like every other day.