Consistency

Sea view of Kuliatan Marine Sanctuary, San Joaquin, Iloilo, Philippines 📸: Almie Jane

Author: Almie Jane

Say what you mean and mean what you say. Don’t be afraid to stand firm on the decisions that you make. Trust yourself. Believe in your instincts. Do what works best for YOU. Stay true to yourself and be good to yourself. Allow every decision that you make to empower, enrich, and add value to your life!”

-Stephanie Lahart

Throughout my student life in the University, I have strived hard to stay consistent about consistency. It is a promise which spells dependability and longevity to sustain peak performance. Everyday, I’ve always see to it to organize my schedule and simply follow it. I tried to practice on replicating positive behaviour each workload day after day. I’ve been juggling different parts of my life using the power of consistency- relationships, studies, univ activities, and of course, my well-being as a person.

Self-care is so important, particularly if there are others depending on you, and a regular and consistent routine is an essential part of that care.”

-Christina Passarella

Because I believe that even the best plans will fail without a dedication to consistency.

There will always be obstacles along the way that challenge you while leaving you no choice but to push through the limits. In the face of strong resistance, it is best to always stand up for what you believe in. But what does it take to be consistent ourselves?

According to Michal Kornozek in his blog on Minimalist Journaling: A Fun and Effective Tool for Tremendous Habit Change l,

Consistency has always been a challenge for me. Despite defining clear goals for myself, I have always struggled to create the habits that would lead me to fulfill them. I had the motivation and time, yet I would consistently fail somewhere around day 10. Failure kept leaving me angry and frustrated, and compounded into a disbelief in my ability to succeed… “

-Michal Korzonek

I have learned that this has something to do with standards-you must enforce compliance to a set of standards. Well, as for me, everybody has their own standard of living and it depends whether a person is dedicated enough or not. Practicing consistency isn’t as easy as it seems to be. It needs to undergo a process to make it a habit by identifying the main points.

You need to make specific and realistic goals [1]. By creating your personal schedule is an important step to keep you on track [2]. Sometimes, it is easy to forget new goals, habits, commitments, or promises, especially when we make them to ourselves. To remind yourself throughout the day, put messages to yourself in visible areas [3]. Never forget to make promises only if you can keep them. It is easy to get overwhelmed, however, if you make too many promises. If you think a request may be difficult to do, say no [4]. Take some time to also reward yourself when you get something done. Even small goals deserve small rewards to help keep you motivated throughout the process [5].

You have to be ready to challenge yourself do better everyday. Know what to prioritize for a greater purpose. There will always be people who break the rules or grease the wheels to earn an unfair advantage for themselves.

But you need to keep going if you make a mistake. Plan for potential failure, and don’t beat yourself up if you make a mistake along the way [6]. Consistency doesn’t mean that you are working all of the time. So take time off to recharge [7]. Use motivational tools to keep going even when you don’t feel like it. Try to find new sources of motivation if you’re feeling down or lazy [8]. Always, always hold yourself accountable. To be consistent means you have to make sure that you recognize when you don’t reach the standards and goals that you’ve set [9].

Changing your thinking is a great help to implement a leap to consistency.

You need to give yourself time to see changes [10]. Set boundaries for your commitments and personal relationships [11]. Most importantly, build your willpower to achieve goals [12]. In order to manifest these things, you have to eliminate negative thinking turn them around or introduce a more positive or neutral thought. So for example if you find yourself thinking “I can’t do this,” turn it around and think, “I’m going to practice doing this, even if I’m not great at it to start with [13].”

I believe that by being consistent pays off in the long run. Just like hard work, consistency can become a person’s strength towards success. This require optimism and productiveness throughout the process. Start with setting for small goals, and when you achieve them, you’ll be more confident to aim for bigger goals.

References:

Passarella, Christina (2018). The Life-Changing Power of Consistency           

Korzonek, Michal (2018). Minimalist Journaling: A Fun and Effective Tool for Tremendous Habit Change

1.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/notes-self/201308/how-set-goals

2.https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/291912

3.https://www.positivityblog.com/how-to-improve-your-consistency/

4.http://changingminds.org/techniques/how_to/trust_me/keep_promises.htm

5.https://www.inc.com/chris-dessi/10-simple-ways-to-motivate-yourself-every-day.html

6.http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/234325

7.https://www.inc.com/chris-dessi/10-simple-ways-to-motivate-yourself-every-day.html

8.https://www.inc.com/chris-dessi/10-simple-ways-to-motivate-yourself-every-day.html

9.http://www.inc.com/eric-v-holtzclaw/consistency-power-success-rules.html

10.https://www.sparkpeople.com/resource/motivation_articles.asp?id=759

11.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/happiness-in-world/201305/the-importance-maintaining-consistent-boundaries

12.http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/raising-happiness/201204/5-tips-boosting-your-willpower

13.https://www.positivityblog.com/how-to-improve-your-consistency/

Come what may

I looked at the stars yet I saw darkness. I was thinking that whichever corner my eyes drew into, there will always be that longing for sparks. Just a little forward? backward? side ward? How much farther can I go for distant lights? How many years does it take to say that “life has finally happened to me!”

 

Wishing for the right time, patience has its way to offer for the best. In midst of difficulties, one must soar high to collect stars, not by gazing but to reach for them. To jump high, no, but to jump higher and believe that we are the stars of our own selves.

 

Failures make us stronger and independent. I am one of the billion people in the world who has gone countless depression and frustrations in life. And I say sorry for myself, for the things I have done and for the things I have failed to accomplish. I don’t want to rant each part of it but in general, to aim for the best shot is not that easy. Bumpy roads and a never ending ups and downs do come in my way but I know God has come to save the day. I admit, I once told myself to just give up because it is the easier than to keep up the struggles going. But the Lord is keeping on pursuing me to stay still and focus on forward. I have tried to step down that road of sorrows just to consider my tiredness. But, soon I realized, I can never escape that road. The longer I remain sitting down on that corner, is the longer it would make me to see the best days of my life. I know right now, it may seem like I have not yet done my best-est yet, but I also know for sure that every single day is closer to improvement as long as I keep going and go for the extra mile. My dreams are still inside of me. Keeping the fire burning and a never ending adventure awaits. Come what may.

 

Parang Kailan lang?

Sobrang tatag ng aking isipan ngayon sa mga maraming kapana-panabik na mga mangyayari sa taong ito. Noon, pawang isipan ko ay gulong-gulo sa mga eksenang masyadong madrama. Ngayon, mas pinapatatag ko ang anking kaloobang mag-sumikap nang makatapos sa pag-aaral. 

Hindi ko mawari kung anong kahihinatnan ng desisyon kong ito, basta’t ang alam ko lang ay ang aking pagtatagumpay ay magbubunga ng kasiyahan sa ‘king mga magulang na syang umagapay sa ‘kin para mag sumikap na igapang ako sa pag-aaral. Masasabi kong, malayo man ang aking pinagmulan, hindi rito nasusukat ang pag-asa sa’king puso na makapagtapos ng kolehiyo alang-alang sa mga taong naniniwala sa’king kakayahan. Higit kong inaalay ito sa Panginoong Diyos na syang nag bigay ng lakas sa’ken.

Hayyy. Next week na ang pasukan. Ewan ko lang kung ano ‘yung sasalubong sa kin, basta’t sa sarili ko, alam ko ang gusto ko. Papanindigan ko ‘to. Tatapusin ko ‘to. Kahit anong mangyari.

Marami narin akong narinig mula sa ibang estudyante na “UNDANG NA LANG KO”, OR “GIKAPOI NAKO”. Hindi ko kayang magbitaw ng mga ganitong salita sa buong buhay ko. Tanging sarili ko lamang ang makakatalo sa’kin kung magkaganon man sa oras na susuko na ako. Syempre, hinding-hindi ako susuko para sa ‘king mga pinapangarap. Sa buhay, pinapahalagahan ko ang meron ako ngayon… at pinapahalagahan ko rin ang mga ninanais ko sa hinaharap. ‘Di mawawala jan ang sariling bahay, lupa, swimming pool, negosyo, sasakyan, masaya at maginhawang pamumuhay. Naniniwala akong ang edukasyon ang solusyon sa kahirapan. Para na rin sa kinabukasan ng pamilya ko sa hinaharap, gusto ko silang makatikim ng masaganang buhay. Para sa’king mga magulang at kapatid, umaasa sila na ako’y makakapagtapos para makatulong na rin sa paghahanap buhay nang sa ganon ay ako ang magpapa-aral ng kapatid ko.

Malaking tulong ang pananalig sa Diyos at pagtitiwala sa sarili. Samut saring mga negatibo ang pinuno ko sa’king isipan noon nang ako’y naghihintay pa lamang ng resulta sa ‘king pag shift sa kursong gustong-gusto ko. Sabi ko noon nang nagfifill-up pa lang ako ng form before ako nagtake ng UPCAT, “ay, bahala sa Iloilo basta’t ang kursong gusto ko ang makukuha ko.” Kaya linagay kong first choice campus:UP VISAYAS, a.Chemical Engineering b. Accountancy. 

Kaya lang, ‘di ako pinalad na makapasok niisa samga pinili ko. Kahit nakapasa ako sa UPCAT, “DPWAS” naman ang resulta ng kurso ko o Degree Program With Available Slots. WEW. grave. Ang saya-saya ko talaga nun nung nalaman kong nakapasa ako. ‘Yun nga lang ang problema… 😦 is.. Kailangan ko pa palang mag susummer bridge sa Math nun kasi mababa ang kuha ko sa math. Kaya mas naging maaga ang pag punta ko sa Miagao, Iloilo. Ahay… hanggang natapos ang Summer Bridge Program sa Math, dun nalang ako sa dorm naghintay hanggang pasukan. Naghanap ako sa Registrar kung mayroon pa bang slot na available. Linagay naman nila ako sa BS in Fisheries. 

Naging okay lang naman ang 1st sem ko sa Fish, masaya naman at ‘dun ako sumuko sa pangarap kong maging isang Chemical Engineer. OH DIBA? *.*

Sa pagsisimula ng 2nd sem, parang may sumanib na spirito ng pag-asa sa’kin. Nang maging CS ako o College Scholar sa first sem, parang, may kung anong aura ang namuo sa ‘king damdamin na mag shift sa kursong gusto ko, at ito ang mga samut saring kadahilanan:

1. Ayokong tumanda na magsisi dahil hindi ko kinuha ang pagkakataong makapasok sa gusto kong kurso.

2. Ayokong ibalewala ang gusto ng sarili ko.

3. Gusto kong magtayo ng Winery sa Surigao.

4. Gusto kong maging isang Engineer.

5. Gusto kong magpa inspire sa kapwa kong kabataan na matutuong maghintay sa pinapangarap.

6. Gusto kong gawin ang mga gusto ko habang may panahon pa.

7. Gusto kong magpakatotoo sa sarili ko.

Ito, ang mga simpleng sagot kung bakit ako nag SHIFT. Alam kong, sa mga Fish Friends ko, sila’y nalulungkot, at naging happy for me dahil sa nakamit ko na sa wakas ang matagal kong pinapangarap. Hindi maipagpapalit ang tuwang nagmumula sa’king damdamin. Naway gabayan ako ng Diyos sa mga LONG EXAMS na aking susuungin. Alam ko sa sarili ko na sa bandang huli, ang lahat ng pinaghirapan ay mamumunga ng mabuti at kailangan lamang ng tyaga sa bawat panahong igugugol ko sa pag-aaral. 

MABUHAY ANG MGA ISKOLAR NG BAYAN. 🙂