Consistency

Sea view of Kuliatan Marine Sanctuary, San Joaquin, Iloilo, Philippines 📸: Almie Jane

Author: Almie Jane

Say what you mean and mean what you say. Don’t be afraid to stand firm on the decisions that you make. Trust yourself. Believe in your instincts. Do what works best for YOU. Stay true to yourself and be good to yourself. Allow every decision that you make to empower, enrich, and add value to your life!”

-Stephanie Lahart

Throughout my student life in the University, I have strived hard to stay consistent about consistency. It is a promise which spells dependability and longevity to sustain peak performance. Everyday, I’ve always see to it to organize my schedule and simply follow it. I tried to practice on replicating positive behaviour each workload day after day. I’ve been juggling different parts of my life using the power of consistency- relationships, studies, univ activities, and of course, my well-being as a person.

Self-care is so important, particularly if there are others depending on you, and a regular and consistent routine is an essential part of that care.”

-Christina Passarella

Because I believe that even the best plans will fail without a dedication to consistency.

There will always be obstacles along the way that challenge you while leaving you no choice but to push through the limits. In the face of strong resistance, it is best to always stand up for what you believe in. But what does it take to be consistent ourselves?

According to Michal Kornozek in his blog on Minimalist Journaling: A Fun and Effective Tool for Tremendous Habit Change l,

Consistency has always been a challenge for me. Despite defining clear goals for myself, I have always struggled to create the habits that would lead me to fulfill them. I had the motivation and time, yet I would consistently fail somewhere around day 10. Failure kept leaving me angry and frustrated, and compounded into a disbelief in my ability to succeed… “

-Michal Korzonek

I have learned that this has something to do with standards-you must enforce compliance to a set of standards. Well, as for me, everybody has their own standard of living and it depends whether a person is dedicated enough or not. Practicing consistency isn’t as easy as it seems to be. It needs to undergo a process to make it a habit by identifying the main points.

You need to make specific and realistic goals [1]. By creating your personal schedule is an important step to keep you on track [2]. Sometimes, it is easy to forget new goals, habits, commitments, or promises, especially when we make them to ourselves. To remind yourself throughout the day, put messages to yourself in visible areas [3]. Never forget to make promises only if you can keep them. It is easy to get overwhelmed, however, if you make too many promises. If you think a request may be difficult to do, say no [4]. Take some time to also reward yourself when you get something done. Even small goals deserve small rewards to help keep you motivated throughout the process [5].

You have to be ready to challenge yourself do better everyday. Know what to prioritize for a greater purpose. There will always be people who break the rules or grease the wheels to earn an unfair advantage for themselves.

But you need to keep going if you make a mistake. Plan for potential failure, and don’t beat yourself up if you make a mistake along the way [6]. Consistency doesn’t mean that you are working all of the time. So take time off to recharge [7]. Use motivational tools to keep going even when you don’t feel like it. Try to find new sources of motivation if you’re feeling down or lazy [8]. Always, always hold yourself accountable. To be consistent means you have to make sure that you recognize when you don’t reach the standards and goals that you’ve set [9].

Changing your thinking is a great help to implement a leap to consistency.

You need to give yourself time to see changes [10]. Set boundaries for your commitments and personal relationships [11]. Most importantly, build your willpower to achieve goals [12]. In order to manifest these things, you have to eliminate negative thinking turn them around or introduce a more positive or neutral thought. So for example if you find yourself thinking “I can’t do this,” turn it around and think, “I’m going to practice doing this, even if I’m not great at it to start with [13].”

I believe that by being consistent pays off in the long run. Just like hard work, consistency can become a person’s strength towards success. This require optimism and productiveness throughout the process. Start with setting for small goals, and when you achieve them, you’ll be more confident to aim for bigger goals.

References:

Passarella, Christina (2018). The Life-Changing Power of Consistency           

Korzonek, Michal (2018). Minimalist Journaling: A Fun and Effective Tool for Tremendous Habit Change

1.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/notes-self/201308/how-set-goals

2.https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/291912

3.https://www.positivityblog.com/how-to-improve-your-consistency/

4.http://changingminds.org/techniques/how_to/trust_me/keep_promises.htm

5.https://www.inc.com/chris-dessi/10-simple-ways-to-motivate-yourself-every-day.html

6.http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/234325

7.https://www.inc.com/chris-dessi/10-simple-ways-to-motivate-yourself-every-day.html

8.https://www.inc.com/chris-dessi/10-simple-ways-to-motivate-yourself-every-day.html

9.http://www.inc.com/eric-v-holtzclaw/consistency-power-success-rules.html

10.https://www.sparkpeople.com/resource/motivation_articles.asp?id=759

11.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/happiness-in-world/201305/the-importance-maintaining-consistent-boundaries

12.http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/raising-happiness/201204/5-tips-boosting-your-willpower

13.https://www.positivityblog.com/how-to-improve-your-consistency/

The Comeback

3rd of May 2020. I woke up this morning with a sudden thought of opening up my wordpress account again. It has been 2 years since I’ve written an entry post in this blogsite. Little did I know, during the past 2 years, I have gained followers and had few visitors in my blog.

Looking back, the recent post I had was during my OJT days last June 2018. I was amazed by how I was eager so much to survive and graduate despite my longing to go home. The old me was a fighter. I am proud of how she continued to commit on the responsibilities as a student, as a daughter, and as an individual.

20th of July 2014 when I first started this blog. I couldn’t contain my happiness and shared this on my story in insta and facebook. Hoping more entries and stories to tell.

Dear old self, I hope you’ll be proud of me. Thank you for hanging on…

“Do not impose upon others what you yourself do not want”

We are basically thinking of “what ifs”. That is the thing nowadays. What if I do this to him, would he do it for me too? What if she won’t appreciate what I’m about to do? Would they do me a favor in return? To expect goodness by doing well to others becomes the world’s norm. Achieving a win-win thing is what matters mostly nowadays. But how about if someone does bad to you, would you do them the same thing?

Reciprocating the good with a good and a bad with a bad is a natural cycle that leads to the different situations and dramas in this life. We tend to forget the first values we have learned when we get hurt by others and from that experience, we would end up thinking about revenge. Having self-thoughts with myself, I do believe in karma through this saying. The principle is being intertwined with bad deeds towards others and as time goes on, the karma comes back unto that person in time. My roommate, ChimaiQuicoy, told me that for her, this is her principle in life as well as the “golden rule” considered by most people.According to her, this saying makes us realize that if you do not want others do that kind of thing to you, then just do what you think is right so that the favor will be returned as a good one.

Becoming cautious on having expectations is a must to not be disappointed on its outcome. As long as we do the things with good intentions, the possibility of having difficulties with people in the long run will be lessened if not avoided. In fact, I have chosen this saying from Confucius because this teaches me to be a better person. My views upon the world is related on the exact thought about it where someday, I wanna look back and would like to tell myself that “My life is not perfectyet I havetried to live it right.”

Confucius Lessons, Lit2

Rotten words, Rotten minds

As far as I can remember, I ‘ve gone through worst… worst that you can ever imagine. The process I undertook last 4 years ago had brought me the sense of individuality that shaped my mind as of this moment. I barely remember the scenes and exact words to note but I could still feel the intensity of what I had experienced from that part of my life.

Those who really knew my story branded me as a strong woman on pace of this life. I have gone through numerous ups and downs in life. Psychological tortures and physical ones which some of my friends never knew about. I intended to just shut it up but it came too soon on my mind that I should just write a blog about my deepest feelings… Those untold ones.

I have encountered battles on which I carefully chosen. Knowing ones level of character is enough for me to either enjoy the show or be with the serye. I doubt that most people would want the supporting role. Of course, most of them liked it to be the center of attraction. It’s always been that way. Never realized it yet?

I met a lot of people almost different and almost similar ones. It just, overwhelms me to observe how some acted to be too good at the start in front of you but suddenly they begins to be ignorant behind your back. “Contempt” “Jealousy” “Envy” those three words would roll side by side to pull you down. Their goals is to pull you down when they see something great about you. That’s life. Shit happens and you just gotta never care such bullshits.

Its funny how I used to hear fluttering words from anyone yet as time goes by, the authenticity fades away sooner just because you can’t give what they want or just because you are above them. For real, I mean, if they can’t reach you, they wanted you to be pulled over. Its so funny and very entertaining at least. Like a circus trail. Pretending to be something and making themselves pretentious as fuck just to smell great yet they rot on the inside.

Who would ever want to speak out of junk on the sea side? Most people out there do. They just spit out toxicity and polluting themselves every now and then. They are trying to outwit anybody and tell themselves they are the better person. What a waste of time babbling on such messes. You know what I mean. Ever experienced such things? HAHAHA I guess my very existence would threaten their own good. My goodness!

While others are so infuriating, best people would come and most of them are the ones who never tell a single fat lie about you. WE all demand for authenticity yet it is so hypocrite for others to be pretentious that they are the better ones. Making issues and correcting your mind by a crippled mind is too funny. Bad mouthing other people just to make them feel good. Too entertaining. pffftttt.

A Self-Reminder

Dear Beautiful Me,

You know very well that there is nothing to be anxious about.  You are serving the Author of time, and what you think is too late for you is just His perfect timing of working out His plans.

I am glad and proud of the woman you’ve become.  Looking back, I didn’t know you would be as strong as you are now and I smile every time I look at you.  I know the journey has not been easy. You’ve had your fair share of the bumpy and winding roads but dear Joy, you’re hanging on and for every narrow way, you always come out victorious, glory to the God who sustains you.

You are beautiful, don’t you ever forget that.  The standards of the world can be deceiving, but I know that you know how beautiful and wonderful God made you.  You are a princess, the daughter of the Most High and when earthly things begin to take toll on you, I know that you will always overcome.

Protect your heart; guard your thoughts. I understand it isn’t easy but everything starts with the mind. I pray that you will never be misled by emotions. Do not rush my dearest for love knows its own time. Do not work things out on your own for you very well know where it will lead you. Wait patiently. It will come.

Never get tired of being good. No matter how unfair the world may seem, you’ve got to make a decision every single day to be the child that God created you to be: long-suffering.  Keep that love; keep that heart because at the end of it all, it’s always between you and your Master. Do not let the pains of the past rob the goodness in you but let it keep you going.

Keep exploring. Let the world surprise you with its grandeur. Stay curious.  Keep learning. Be brave enough to take challenges.  Savor life for you were made to explore and see how beautiful the earth your Father has created for you is. Study. Travel. Go and make the world your own!

Cherish time.  You know that no one has yet invented a machine that will transport you back to yesterday.  Live each day as if it’s your last.  Love fully and let each day be an expression of your appreciation of life.  Stay connected.  Reconnect if you must.  The people you value need to feel valued.  The people you love need to feel loved. Don’t hold yourself back. Express.  Make your presence felt. You are not getting any younger and every moment wasted is forever wasted. Don’t rely on “making up” because you can never really make up for the lost times. Each day will always be a new day.

Time is precious.  It’s a scarce resource.  Use it wisely.  Spend it right.

Keep dreaming.  Keep hoping.  God placed in you a dream and He has equipped you to make it happen. Don’t give up when circumstances would say otherwise.  Keep on.  Keep fighting.  You’re getting there and each day would remind you that you are a day closer to the answers.

Never give up on love.  Someone is kneeling before God and praying for you.  Keep believing in it.  Never distance yourself from its magic.  Allow your heart to feel it again; to celebrate it again.  You are looking at the same sky and like you, God is preparing him for your meeting.  The dreams you once dreamed will all come to pass, probably not with the person you dreamed it with, but it’s definitely with the man that God created exclusively for you.  And trust me, he, himself will be the definition of love to you.

Keep writing.  This is you.  This makes you YOU.  Let your mind free itself from everything and let it explore the world of words.  Then write.  Bring life to it.  Inspire the world.  You are a writer but more than that, you are God’s pen. Write your story the right way!

Lastly, keep the faith.  Never lose it.  Keep the fire burning and know that God will always see you through.  When trusting becomes so hard, remember that He will never leave you nor forsake you.  Fight the good fight of faith.  Take part in the kingdom.  Be a testimony of God’s power and love.  Four years ago, you were telling the world through this same Young Blood page how torn you were between your dreams and your convictions.  Look at you now, God finally reconciled the two.  You’re now on track, doing the things you love most.

My dearest Me, I want you to always remember that you are good the way you are.  The angels rejoice with you.  The heavens celebrate your uniqueness, your being you.  And even when troubles come, I know we’ll always make it.  We’re more than conquerors, aren’t we?  Whatever life brings us, we choose to live a life that is for Christ.  You are beautiful, more than you’ve ever known.  You are blessed, more than you can ever imagine.  And yes, you are what your name says about you.  Joy.   You are a perfect masterpiece created by the Maker of heaven and earth.  You are a sight to behold.

And don’t forget we’re partners, okay?  We’re in this together: mind and heart united, until we hear our Master say, “well done my good and faithful servant.”

Until next time beautiful Joy.

By: Florence Joy L. Maluyo

This is one of my favorite essays ever published. My nickname’s Joy and feels like I am talking to myself. I just wanna publish it on my blog because I can relate to this whenever I feel down about something. Right now, I just feel like I wanna share this to you. It’s my roommate, Zsareena who introduced me to this wonderful essay. I am really thankful to the writer, Florence Joy L. Maluyo for creating a life-changing meaningful craft that brings hope to every hearts. ❤

the wait is over.

I once remember the way you smile at me. When the sun was up shining and burst out its heated light upon me. I wonder what makes me so excited yet so nervous of that certain moment. I have found one thing that could never be compared with such intense glow– YOUR SMILE.

Every single day I have imagined of not getting up early in bed just to go home and be apart from you. What is on my mind is a hot choco with pancakes and extra sweet morning wake up call from you–YOUR KISSES.

So much of it that I ended up wondering how’s this life may go but what I know for sure is a bright future with you whom I have loved so much, whom I love dearly, whom I will love for eternity. As you surround me with your warm atmosphere and holding me close to you like you will never let me go, let me be inside–YOUR ARMS.

I have never felt so conscious like before. Have I got my lipstick already? Or have I brush my teeth or comb my hair yet? What else to wear? I cannot decide that easily because of your delicate looks that makes me uneasy-YOUR EYES.

Days come and years go, but this I know for sure… That you’re the one that I’ve been waiting for.

And I can finally say, the wait is over. 😘

To the sun I suppose to miss during summer

Dearest Star, I would like to express my sincere condolences to what I have to do. This would be a melodramatic narrative for which I know that in the first place, all I could do is to sit on my chair and do my routines. I hate to say that I will be missing you my darling. So much of confusion had come along my way since I first thought about you. The white sand beach, the warm breeze and the delight of having to experience something for free is really out of my reach. I couldn’t stop thinking about you. You’re so tempting and that magic you have given me overwhelms my feelings as I try to imagine to embrace you from deep within me. I have always been fascinated about the sunny light above my head and that temperament that wraps around my back as I try to seek for cold refreshments. I seek of your love and of your effects that leave me breathless. I am writing this to you because I want you to know that I will always love your glow. I would always be admired how you shine up in the sky so bright that even Winter snow bows to you. I would always keep on loving you despite this situation I am having. The choice that I made because of something valuable that keeps me away from you. Now this fear is what I have to turn into strength. This strength that I will turn into a notion that dreams are made for people like me to hope and wait and see. To be better, and brave enough to accept defeat. To be able to withstand failure and whatever life might offer to me, I will always come victorious. Because I do believe on the Creator’s plan for my life. I just have to trust the maker of you as a star that someday, a  beautiful  meet up will due as I have that chance again to see you.

I will publish this soon as I build my dreams and make it to reality. I wanted to see you so much but please understand that this might be not the right time for me to be able to hold you, all I want you to remember is that… One day will come that I will be able to love you dearly. And sing with all my heart for the moment that I look forward. Lord, please help us.

To the sun that I missed during summer, I will always be waiting for the day to come that you and I can be together.

April 28, 2017

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